Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Popcorn {Transparent Tuesday}

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My kids asked me if they could have popcorn for a snack the other day. I happily got the popcorn together. Popcorn is easy. I love popcorn. It's not even unhealthy

I got out the kid's bowls and they traipsed in to retrieve their individual helpings of popcorn. That's when I noticed where they had stationed themselves with said bowls. On the couches in the Family Room. My eye twitched momentarily as I thought of popcorn falling onto the couch. 

Christmas music was playing and everyone was in a rather jovial mood. One child jumped up and began to dance. All good things! Popcorn spilled. I asked them to sit down. More popcorn landed on the floor. 

"This is fine!" I heartily said to myself as I gave the toddler a bowl of popcorn - also in the Family Room. "I know lots of people who let their kids eat popcorn on their couches!" 

I had just vacuumed moments before. I looked around. I started to feel panic set in. I began to feel resentment towards all popcorn loving moms as I imagined them all dancing amidst falling popcorn - while laughing... and jumping.. on their couches. 

That's when I broke. With a red face I loudly told them to take their respective bowls of raining popcorn to the kitchen table where they could finish their helpings. In a tizzy I plugged in the vacuum and started to vacuum every cranny of the Family Room. 

Once I'd finished my vacuuming I glanced over and I noticed something. I saw how happily my kids were eating their popcorn. Unaffected by my hysteria over their snack they continued to eat all the while laughing and smiling.

And I realized that trying to be the mom who lets their kids eat popcorn on the couch had been ludicrous. My kids don't care where they eat their popcorn. They just want to eat it.

It begs the question: Why are we always trying to swim against the tide? 

It's ok for us to set boundaries, limitations for ourselves. It's ok for us to tell ourselves that we're not going to be like that other mom. Not because we don't admire her, not because there's anything wrong with how she does things, but because we're not her. If we're always trying to be someone else we will always be a second rate version of them all the while being a bad version of ourselves.

This is not to say that we shouldn't try new things, stretch ourselves, or venture out of our comfort zone. We absolutely should! It's important to grow. It's important to learn and to improve. It needs to fit, though. You cannot fit a square peg into a round hole.

If I'm always trying to be the mom who bakes bread, the mom who does crafts every day, the mom who is relaxed about popcorn, the mom who *fill in the blank* then I'm not being... me. Why am I trying so hard to not be me?

So, lately I've been trying to think about the things that I'm good at. I am trying to concentrate on those things and hone in on them. I've even asked a couple people what they think I am good at (which is slightly awkward) - because sometimes others see things about us that we don't see ourselves. It's an exercise in grace - grace turned towards myself, because heaven knows we need to go easier on ourselves.

God loves us so very much and he wants us to use what he's given us - not what he's given someone else. 

Instead of continuing to attempt to be all those other people I admire I'm going to pray that God will make me the best possible version of myself. Because, if I can do that then I can not only please my Father in heaven, but I can be satisfied in the knowledge that I'm doing exactly what I was created to do. 

For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.  Psalm 139:13-16

This week I'm featuring Lydia from Small Town Simplicity. In her post she writes about early pregnancy and what she's learning as she traverses what seem like weeks that have no end. Many of us experience awful sickness in the dawn of our pregnancies and this is a good one. You are not alone!

How To Sit With Suffering

Today is Transparent Tuesday!

I invite you to link up and join me in an effort to cast aside the filters! We all have a story to tell. The best stories are those where ordinary people rise up and work through the tough situations, the unseemly moments, the mundane, and the unglamorous.

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1. One posts, two posts, three?! Link (up to) three posts of anything authentic! A picture, a post, a quote you love!

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3. Finally, last but not least copy the code for the Transparent Tuesday graphic and attach it to your post so that other people can come and see all the other posts for Transparent Tuesday. The more the graphic is shared, the more people will be able to participate!

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  1. I think any mom from time to time will see how someone else is doing it and question their ways. You are right though, all we can be is our best selves and that will always be good enough for our kiddos!!

  2. Confession - I allow myself to eat popcorn on my couch ;-)

  3. My son and I LOVE popcorn. No exaggeration we eat popcorn like every night.Feel free to be yourself. Your babies will love you anyway you are.

  4. I'm so glad you wrote this. Lately, I've been feeling like I do things so differently and have been questioning myself. You're right. You just need to be the 'best version' of yourself. Oh, and when I let my kids eat a snack on the couch, I'm always finding crumbs in between the cushions and it grosses me out.

  5. Great description! I can imagine a popcorn rain all over the family room - heart breaking, really! You were your better self by managing to settle them nicely to eat it. Jumping and dancing with food can be a choking hazard too!

  6. I literally eat like an entire bag of smart pop popcorn every single night. The boys love it and we always eat it on the couch haha. Its messy sometimes but the dogs eat the mess and then I sweep lol. This was a wonderful message and I love when you said God wants us to use what he gave us, not what he gave someone else. So true and so important. Great post!


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